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Old 04-18-13, 12:13 PM
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

Told one of my bosses about it today. I knew she was going to be supportive, so it was good to get it out. That's still only about ten people who know, I guess.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I'm unashamed of my condition and open with how it affects me, but only with those who really need to know.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I've decided to not hide it, but I can't imagine the topic spontaneously coming up. I would tell people with whom I naturally share this kind of information. For someone w a condition known to cause problems w relationships, I have a lot of friends.

I will tell my Dean, because it was issues with organization and getting grading done that led me to counseling in the first place. He needs to know that finally the issue has been addressed. I would like to tell the head of the school's counseling services, because she is the one who directed me to the counselor who diagnosed me -- NOT one of the school counselors, btw.

I want to do some research and writing, so I am telling a circle of friends to promise to ask me frequently about how it is going, to help me stay on track.

I have a close friend here with whom I often share meals. Working in the kitchen with her brought forth the usual "wouldn't it be better to do that this other way?" adjustments to my obviously inefficient working processes -- I am pretty low on executive function, she is exceptionally good at it. Once I became aware of how this stuff, over time, had effected me, I tried to explain it all to her. Pretty funny, my trying to explain something I have so little of that I can't really understand, to someone who has so much of it that she can't really see it. She could see that it was deeply affecting me, however, and she has done a good job of adjusting to it. We either work on separate sides of the kitchen, or she will ask if I want a suggestion before giving one.

I have another friend who is really good at all that stuff, but she has a mild form of cerebral palsy that appears as simple clumsiness to other people -- who often try to help her do things better, too. We now joke that between us, we make one pretty effective person -- she has the cognitive executive functions, and I have the physical ones.

I think people need to be more aware of adult diagnosis of ADD/ADHD. Even senior ones, like mine, and I'm only the third oldest person my doctor has diagnosed.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I will tell people if it comes up in conversation, don't be ashamed..
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I tell people because having ADD is part of who I am.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

The news of having ADD does not shock the people you are already close to. When I was initially diagnosed I told my parents, wife and close friends. Most of them already expected I had some form of ADD. I dont go out of my way telling anyone new but I will make joking comments about having an 'ADD Moment' when I catch myself or someone else catches me doing something silly.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I don't. Barely anyone even knows what ADD is and it's so bothersome to explain. To them it'll probably sound more like justifying excuses for my failures in life. One of the reasons why I feel so alone.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I only reveal it if I have to sincerely apologize for something. After years of bad behavior I finally don't have to apologize very often.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

Like TagEheuer, if it comes up, I often tell I've got two disorders, but quickly explain 'my' definition of the term disorder. And I often use it in a reinforcing way, helping me in an argument, it serves as argument in the conversation.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

well I've tried, but I don't think I explained it very well.
plus at that moment you feel like you're telling them something SO important and they don't understand everything that it implies, and how much it affects your life.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

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well I've tried, but I don't think I explained it very well.
plus at that moment you feel like you're telling them something SO important and they don't understand everything that it implies, and how much it affects your life.
ABSOLUTELY!!! I made a trip of 800 miles one way to tell someone my recent diagnosis, and how much (I now realize) her neat and quiet house meant to me when I was a child, and it didn't seem to sink in at all. Especially when she referred to a couple people she knew on disability for "mental diseases" as "finding an excuse not to work."

(I thought, do you just realize I just told you I had a psych diagnosis that has had a significant impact on my life? Apparently not.)

Oh, well. I made the trip as MY pilgrimage, and that was enough.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

nah

not telling anyone what i'm 'diagnosed with' and 'treatment' unless I'm in a forum like this or being treated by a physician who needs to know ....it's proven time and again to be completely undermining to one's best interests, both in business and socially...IMO.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

People don't need labels to know I'm crazy. If anyone who knows me at all reacts badly to being "informed" that I have something like ADHD, as if they "didn't see it coming", then I can only think they are too narrow-mindedly ignorant, and I don't tolerate those types of people very well. It may be a big deal for myself, but it's not supposed to be a big deal at all to anyone else.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

If someone tells me they do, I'll open up about it. Other than that I will never tell anyone. There are too many uninformed/ignorant people that will say "I guess everyone has ADD" or "ADD doesn't exist". The fact that there is a large amount of people like this is enough to make it not worth telling them in the first place, even though there are people that are understanding, it's not worth the chance. My closest friends know I have ADD but they respect me enough to not make jokes about it or just tell other people. I hate my condition not being taken seriously and most people aren't informed enough/open minded enough so it's not worth disclosing as it will do more harm than good in the end. Only my immediate family knows and my close friends and I intend to keep it that way for the above reasons.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I would love to be open about it, if only I knew for sure, because I often run into kids with ADHD in my line of work.
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