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Old 02-09-09, 03:59 PM
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I was recently diagnosed and to be honest have a hard time finding it a big deal if anyone or everyone knows. Really. The stigma is relatively low and as long as work gets done, employers don't really care.

Now, bipolar I don't want to share! That has stigma big time.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

Whatever the choice, or the reason...you must feel comfortable with yourself, and your reasons.

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Old 02-13-09, 04:50 PM
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Re: How open are you about discussing your ADD with other people?

I don't bring it up with people I don't know unless they are talking about it or have it. However, I had to explain it at work. I was driving my co-nurses nuts and some of the ways I communicate (I'm hyperverbal and occasionally miss social cues) were explainable.
I explained about the difference in brain hard wiring and what symptoms I had, AND that I was treated and compliant with meds.
I also told them about the different ways it made me a better nurse, and what things I hated about it.
I gave them hints on how to slow me down and asked that they tell me in a non confrontational manner when I was being socially dense, as I can't change a behavior until I know about it.
In the end they accept me because I do my job well and am well liked by the patients. It's understood that we would never be friends outside of work, but that we have the same motivation to help, and our different backgrounds can only help us give great service.
If I hadn't been honest they would've thought I was annoying them on purpose.
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Re: How open are you about discussing your ADD with other people?

I don't usually, but if the conversation heads that way then why not?
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Re: How open are you about discussing your ADD with other people?

it depends on the person; and if they are skeptical right away I just drop it.
of all people - my boss thinks he may have it himself... (impulsive/hyperactive)
I said, really but you're so organized; he said yes but that's overcompensating - he was very interested in this.
I only told him because he asked me; he really wanted to understand how it is that I can misinterpret directions etc.
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Re: How open are you about discussing your ADD with other people?

I am very open about taking about my ADHD with other people, especially with my family members and friends. I feel that the best way to explain my behavior at times is by saying i am ADD. Even though i do talk openly about my ADHD with other people, only a few people understand what i am talking about such as my dad and brother because they have ADHD too. My other family members listen to me and try to symphasize with me but they just don't understand how disabling this disorder can be at times especially with the anxiety and depression.
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Re: How open are you about discussing your ADD with other people?

I don't care who knows and I make reference to it often. When standing around in a group of people that are talking, I'm walking here, moving there, doing a 360 constantly, observing everything around me. I try to let people know that I'm not really that bored or uninterested in them and what they're saying. I just can't keep still... Now if they start fighting or debating, I'm there 100% and it's on.

Of course, that takes explaining too... People wonder why the space cadet turned into a bull dog.

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I'm particular about this.

Lately, when I open up, I do so by poking a little fun at myself about my project pace, hyperfocus, daydreaming, creativity, boundless energy, adaptability ... I've been shocked at how many people then open up about ADHD and make a wonderful connection because either they have it, someone close to them does, or they work in a profession touching upon it.

If, instead, the person belittles ADHDers or, I begin rattling off everything under the sun I know about ADHD at hyperwarp speed, I don't let the person get a word in edgewise, I make sure I interrupt their sentences, and engage in every other conceivable ADHD social faux pas until the person slithers away in mortified shame or utter disgust. After all, it's time we used ADHD to our advantage:
  • Let's "hunt down" and stealthily pounce upon uneducated or insecure persons of the latter ilk with our strengths
  • Let's then repel them with our positively charged spray and stench
  • Finally, let's shout out to them "Arrrrrgh ... walk the plank!!"
That should keep them farmers in their own backwoods!
This made me laugh so hard! I love it. When people don't believe or belittle ADD, just start being, more, ADD? Wonderful! I get to act like... well.... me!
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Re: How open are you about discussing your ADD with other people?

I'm not sure if I agree about ADHD and the stigma surrounding it. Most people assume it has to do with little kids who eat too much junk food and can't keep still. I mean, that's what I thought when someone brought it up to me. They certainly don't think a 30 something year old female who struggles to keep up and can't seem to learn anything as having ADHD. Again I point to myself...

I'm not ashamed of my ADHD. But I am protective of it. I don't know if the information I disclose will help or hinder the relationships I have with people. Now in my real life I have yet to meet anyone who thinks they can 'cure' my ADHD. Or anyone who thinks badly of me because I take medication. But quite frankly, I don't want to get into that discussion with anyone.

Sometimes I wish I could talk to people about it. It's exciting to talk about what a change being diagnosed has made. And I want to talk about the good and the bad. How even today I still struggle with it.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

nah I dont tell anyone I have ADD straight away as I think its not really that important, if it comes up in conversation then I might mention it but otherwise no because I dont see the point in telling someone I have it.
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Umm I have ADHD and my meds haven't been completely working so I tend to blurt it out and yes I get some funny looks! I feel like now that I have a reason for my incessent rambling, and in appropriate comments I have to explain itTrying to get that blurting part under control .Always have struggled with the to much info syndrome
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I'm in college... So no.

Because it how it goes/would go:

"I'm ADHD"
"oh SWEET, how much?"

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Only 3 people know about my ADD. My partner, one sister, and a friend at work
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Yes, I like to but I picked & chose . I like to educate
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

Well im not realy an adult but at 17 i consider myself nearly an adult so ima post llol :]

Well obv my family knows but as far as friends go, i have just recently discovered one of my friends has ADD and like me he keeps it too himself, i have told a total of 3 of my friends know, the reason being i fear they will misunderstand it, and take it that i am mentally retarded or something. I am still the same person i should just be better now that i know i have it and i can work around it (as hard as this is provving at the moment)
I just feel its easier not to tell people so they will not think less of me, being a teen myself i know how much we judge each other and this could be something people start to think of me different because and i realy dont want that.

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Well im not realy an adult but at 17 i consider myself nearly an adult so ima post llol :]

Well obv my family knows but as far as friends go, i have just recently discovered one of my friends has ADD and like me he keeps it too himself, i have told a total of 3 of my friends know, the reason being i fear they will misunderstand it, and take it that i am mentally retarded or something. I am still the same person i should just be better now that i know i have it and i can work around it (as hard as this is provving at the moment)
I just feel its easier not to tell people so they will not think less of me, being a teen myself i know how much we judge each other and this could be something people start to think of me different because and i realy dont want that.

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Some people don't have to know... you know who your REAL friends are... the ones that don't care and like you anyway! When you meet new people, though... it's best to keep it to yourself until you get to know them. There are times I have been afraid that someone might think that I will be using my ADD as an excuse or a crutch. I did tell my supervisor (at the volunteer job I have at the hospital) and other co-workers... which they expressed gratitude for the information. So, I've been there an entire month (well, of February, anyway)... It depends on the circumstances and situation. At school, only your teachers/counselors/principal need to know. The rest don't need to.. but up to you to let some of your school mates know. All I can say is (and I have been accused of the same thing) that people that accuse others as being "retarded" obviously are too. Ever heard the expression, "It takes one to know one"??? So true.
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