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Re: Russell Barkley 20 best tips for helping your child manage.

literally after reading the first few lines, I started crying. My son is ADHD, and until this year at school (3rd grade) it hasn't posed much of a problem at school. Now it is and we are finding home life to be getting more chaotic too. So those first lines hit me like a hammer.

ADHD is a disorder of brain development and functioning
It is not a choice or the result of willful misbehavior
ADHD is a strongly genetically influenced disorder in 65-75% of all cases
It is not the result of poor parenting or social learning and so it cannot be unlearned just by changing the social environment

I feel like such a horrible parent at times, like I have failed to teach him such basic things, and it's so nice to see that it may not be completely my fault!!
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Re: Russell Barkley 20 best tips for helping your child manage.

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literally after reading the first few lines, I started crying. My son is ADHD, and until this year at school (3rd grade) it hasn't posed much of a problem at school. Now it is and we are finding home life to be getting more chaotic too. So those first lines hit me like a hammer.

ADHD is a disorder of brain development and functioning
It is not a choice or the result of willful misbehavior
ADHD is a strongly genetically influenced disorder in 65-75% of all cases
It is not the result of poor parenting or social learning and so it cannot be unlearned just by changing the social environment

I feel like such a horrible parent at times, like I have failed to teach him such basic things, and it's so nice to see that it may not be completely my fault!!
You probably have taught him a lot. He probably has learned a lot.

Dr. Barkley also says we know what we should do, but too often we can't do what we know we should.
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Re: Russell Barkley 20 best tips for helping your child manage.

Hi,

This pdf file is very helpful but I find many tips hard to put into practice like tips number 2 (making tasks more appealling and stimulating), 3, 6,7, 8 and more.

It's too hard to raise a child with adhd and much more when there are siblings. How finding enough energy and strength? I'm a believer but I'm really worried about his future. Adult he won't have all these tips to make his life easier. He will have to study, work and manage his daily life as anyone. But I feel after reading these tips he will never be autonomous and independent. It's frightening and depressing.
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Re: Russell Barkley 20 best tips for helping your child manage.

Love this book. Got it as an audio book for my commute. Really empowered and educated me to be that executive parent
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I literally just posted a very long post asking for some help with my child... and hey presto I look back on New Posts and see this!!! Thank you... I mean it THANK YOU!!! This is exactly what I wanted... I actually can't say thank you enough, especially after having a few really bad days and going to bed in tears feeling like a failure!
Same thought! Big thanks for the one who posted this. It's really a big help!
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Re: Russell Barkley 20 best tips for helping your child manage.

Hello, fellow ADHDers! I am an elementary teacher with ADHD and I’m married to a pediatrician. One of my twin daughters (10yrs) definitely has classic ADHD. This post pertains to her. We definitely struggle with her, and we did not medicate until this year (4th grade). Starting in Kindergarten, by the years end she was about 20% behind her class. That summer, I worked with her on getting her up to grade level. Once there, we were having so much fun working together we kept going. I looked up the 1st grade standards and by summers end we had covered the first 25% of 1st grade. Within a week or two of first grade my wife and I noticed a powerful change in her attitude. She was confident, and very excited about school. By the years end she was at the top of the class, trailing her sister by less than 10%. I continued doing this each summer until this year (4th grade). This year was different, she was going back medicated. It is now March, and she has independently maintained her stellar academic standing. She no longer trails her sister! However, with meds there are other repercussions. Off meds she has a harder time completing tasks. Most of these tasks are at home (social emotional). Lately she has been fighting a lot more with her sister, and myself (I am main caregiver, mom works a lot more). From what I can gather there is something called (excuse me if I’m not 100% here) “a rebound effect”. This causes a medicated person to come off the meds with an increase in frustration/anger. So far, my research has led me to believe that her medication doses might not be correct.

My point is that there are problems with and without. However, school should be more enjoyable if the child is better at it. This can be accomplished by pre-teaching some of the upcoming curriculum to the child. Just remember to teach via common core. For math i used The kaun (not sure if spelling is correct) academy videos. Let them drive, maybe let them watch the videos and teach you common core. In terms of writing, I used a 3x3ft white board and my child would tell me a story and I would write it. I would purposefully forget to capitalize letters in the beginning of sentences, and replace periods with question marks, etc. She loved correcting me, and laughing at my mistakes. This also enticed her reading!

As a teacher, I was teaching 3rd grade and every 15-30 mins I would stop and allow my students to take a quick lap around the field. This generally took less than 5 mins and yielded phenomenal results (especially for the boys). My point is that lots of little breaks really help and I recommend working closely with the teachers.

Being creative, fun, & engaging is so important for ADDers!!
Best of luck
If I can personally help anyone let me know.

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Being creative, fun, & engaging is so important for ADDers!!
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Thanks for an enthusiastic and uplifting post, and welcome to the Forum.

You sound like a gifted teacher and parent, and your kids (all of them) are lucky to have you.
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