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Old 04-13-19, 08:19 PM
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Hi guys! My first post. My name is Marsha & I have adhd. Whew....now that that is out of the way... I wanted to ask if any of you suffer from isolation? Maybe from others not understanding you or growing up with no adhd support and your life has been so traumatic that others isolate you, look down on you & judge you? Thanks for your support & answers!
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Re: Big question for you guys Isolation

I suffer from SELF-isolation.
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Re: Big question for you guys Isolation

I do not but when I was growing up I felt very different and isolated.
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Re: Big question for you guys Isolation

Yeah I was super-isolated when I was a kid but I don't think it bothered me too much in that I had a really rich fantasy life so I kept myself pretty entertained.

If you feel isolated now, I think it's important to reach out and be proactive about it - take the initiative. If you have a therapist or OT, ask them if there are any ADHD support groups in your area you can attend for starters. Also, identify what your interests are and see if there are any clubs that cater to that as well.

I know that in my late 20s/early 30s I got really into hiking, which is great for people with ADHD because communing with nature in that way is really good for you mentally and emotionally as well. Plus sometimes it's easier to chat with the other people when there is physical activity involved and not just sitting there staring at each other.

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Re: Big question for you guys Isolation

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I wanted to ask if any of you suffer from isolation? Maybe from others not understanding you or growing up with no adhd support and your life has been so traumatic that others isolate you, look down on you & judge you? Thanks for your support & answers!
Why? Does this happen to you?

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no adhd support and your life has been so traumatic that others isolate you
sure it's certainly difficult to get personal on a deep intimate level with people, some of it might have to do with trauma but life can be traumatic and cruel at times, all of my isolation is self imposed, things will greatly improve when you stop trying to appease these people, they will only judge and scrutinize you even more, I've found people started to have a new found respect for me when I stopped being a conformist and caring about every little critique a person would have of me, **** em all is what I say!
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Thatís me too LOL I like it. Social interaction takes energy out of me.
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Re: Big question for you guys Isolation

I think I was too dependent on my family growing up, so I didn't have friends much outside the family unit. Leaving the "nest" was hard for me for that reason. Then when I realized my marriage wasn't working anymore...well, it was like leaving the "nest" all over again. I became depressed after I left...and then my mother was dying of cancer. Even now, there's just my DH and me pretty much, but that's sort of a family also. We hardly ever see my DD. Some birds leave the nest and never really want to return.
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Re: Big question for you guys Isolation

I embrace isolation. I'm not isolated enough. Friends and family keep pushing soul-crushing social activities on me.
...But that may be my autistic side? I've got both ADD & ***, so sometimes I don't know which symptom goes with which.
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Well Yes- from time to time.
I think there are a few things that cause it at different times.

A big one is the sort of restlessness and fidgetiness that goes with ADHD.
Its sort of tough trying to get on socially with everyone else when you feel restless so often.

There are a lot of paradoxes like that-- how come I cant sit and function in a noisy chit-chatty environment, but I am totally at home at a gig of The Cult, Status Quo, Led Zeppelin etc.

I'm still thinking about that one- however so much depends on the other's judgement and how we handle that. Is it relevant to us- or should we ignore it.

After all who are these people to tell us how to conduct ourselves? If they do not see us, and our way of functioning, is their opinion really that important, or are we just asking for a lifetime of hanging with people who rub us up the wrong way? I do not have any firm answers, but maybe these are useful questions.
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Re: Big question for you guys Isolation

Self-isolator here.

I feel like a freak most of the time, like I donít even belong on this planet. Temple Grandin said it right when she said she feels like an anthropologist on Mars.

I feel like an exile on Mars.
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