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Re: Why are you not happy?

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Originally Posted by userguide View Post
This is interesting: almost all westen hapiness recipes come down to getting free from societal constructs they deem destructive and unfair. Like "guilt", "shame" and so on.
Well, I can understand why. Unfettered guilt and shame, and unwarranted guilt and shame, can certainly wreak havoc on your life and well-being, and peace of mind. It certainly does for me.

However, a little guilt or shame can be useful. It might tell you or clue you in that you've done something wrong that you need to make amends for, or not do again. I think every emotion has some function developed over thousands and thousands of years of biology, and those need to be paid attention to and not ignored.

It's just when it gets out of hand and unwarranted, or really oppressive or debilitating, that one would need to look at it a little closer, and untangle whatever is driving it. I would just ask, is it useful?

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